Sex Tricks He's Never Been Treated To

By: Julia Gaynor, Cosmopolitan, Oct2004

Looking for new ways to thrill his body? Well, you've come to the right place. After you've served up these sexy moves, he might forget his own name, but he'll never forget yours.

Just when you thought you'd picked up every sexy lick, position, and crazy contortion from the pages of Cosmo, we're revealing the secret unheard-of techniques that make even the most tried-and-true trick beyond amazing.

"Adding to your sexual repertoire isn't just a great way to impress your man with new skills," says Laura Herman, PhD, director of the Herman Center in Chicago. "Pushing the envelope does wonders for your sexual confidence. And all that exploring is hound to increase your intimacy and satisfaction." So read on for our erotic upgrades.

YOU'VE HEARD OF The Reverse Cowgirl ADVANCED PLEASURE POINTER The Cowgirl Toe Tug
"When you're in the reverse cowgirl position (woman on top, facing his feet), squeeze his big toe firmly and pull it away from his body as he's about to climax to extend his orgasm," says Kate Taylor, author of The Good Orgasm Guide.

Why this move doubles his pleasure: "The same neural pathway that innervates the big toe also innervates the penis, so by pulling on his toe, you're indirectly strengthening the sensations he's feeling in his penis," says Jennifer R. Berman, MD, director of the Female Sexual Medicine Center at University of California at Los Angeles.

YOU'VE HEARD OF Humming ADVANCED PLEASURE POINTER Hummer Heat Wave
Savvy girls know that adding a little humming to their oral moves can wow him, but Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed, shares a little-known trick: "Massage a dime-size drop of water-based lube on his testicles, lightly wrap them in a square of plastic wrap, then put your lips over the area and hum."

The plastic wrap, coupled with your lip movements, will spike his sexual thermostat and can strengthen his erection. "Increased heat causes blood vessels to dilate, creating more blood flow to the penis," says Laurence Levine, MD, professor of urology at Rush University Medical Center, in Chicago. Sure, he might raise an eyebrow when you bring a roll of plastic wrap to bed, but his skepticism will soon morph into satisfaction.

YOU'VE HEARD OF Pumping His Perineum ADVANCED PLEASURE POINTER Stretch Your P-Spot for Even More Pleasure
Chances are, you've heard about pleasuring a guy' perineum (that small patch of skin between his testicles and anus). But you also have a sensitive P-spot that's loaded with nerve endings, and when it's stretched just the right way, it helps to elongate your clitoris, turning it into a massive climax center.

"A lot of women are turned on by clitoral stimulation, but they may not know that the clitoris is about two centimeters longer than the little bulb we see on the outside. It extends inside," says Lisa Masterson, an ob-gyn in Los Angeles. "By stretching the perineum (the small patch of skin between the vagina and the amis), the skin of the clitoral hood retracts all the way back, giving it more access to friction." This increases sensitivity in the entire area.

Try stretching your P-spot while you're both in a sitting-up position with your legs wrapped around each other. Keep your pelvises together, and arch your back, supporting your weight with one hand behind you. This keeps your genitals grinding together while stretching those; tender inches below.

YOU'VE HEARD OF The Missionary Position ADVANCED PLEASURE POINTER The Straight-Up Squeeze
No doubt missionary is a carnal classic, but with this sexy modification, his penis will feel like a pleasure pole rubbing up and down directly on your clitoris.

With him on top, very slowly and carefully squeeze your legs together while he's inside you so they are between his legs. "You'll get clitoral stimulation, and it's also great if your man is well-endowed because he can't go all the way inside and potentially hit your cervix, which can be painful," says Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex.

Hot hint: With straight legs, try pressing the bottom of one foot against the top of the other for an even tighter fit.

YOU'VE HEARD OF Using Your PC Muscles ADVANCED PLEASURE POINTER The Breathtaking Back-Draft
Pubococcygeus (PC) muscles are essential for sensational sex, but add the right breath control to those sexy squeezes and you can literally breathe him in and out, giving him an experience he's never felt before and intensifying your climax.

As he's entering you, contract your PC muscles while inhaling deeply. "Breathing in increases blood flow to the genital area, helping with the engorgement necessary for orgasm," explains Laura Herman. It also pumps up puny PCs. "Just like when you lift weights, breathing in brings oxygen to the muscles, helping them work better," she says.

To keep a noisy (and embarrassing) queef from escaping due to muscle contractions, stay away from positions that let too much air into the vagina, such as doggie-style, and stick to pelvis-to-pelvis positions like sitting stances or missionary moves, suggests Dr. Masterson.

YOU'VE HEARD OF Doggie-Style ADVANCED PLEASURE POINTER One-Handed Diagonal Downward Dog
Doggie-style is the second favorite position for guys, according to Cosmo's August 2004 male sex survey, and no wonder: It's primal and perfect for a quickie. But a tiny tweak turns this move into rear-entry ecstasy for both of you.

Start in a traditional all-fours position, but lean your body forward so your head rests on one arm, propped up on a pillow. That way, your other arm is free to reach behind and circle the base of his penis with your forefinger and thumb as he enters you.

This minor modification has several orgasm-boosting bonuses: "His penis is going against the grain, entering against the natural shape and curve of your vagina, which gives him more friction," says Laura Berman. "And the pressure of his penis against the back wall of your vagina causes indirect anal stimulation that many women find pleasurable!."

With this downward slant, you'll also avoid any potential ouch factor that can come with doggie-style. "This position holds the cervix lower, making it much less likely that he'll bump it during sex," adds David Ferguson, MD, PhD, member of the advisory board of the Women's Sexual Health Foundation. Plus, your taut hand wrapped tightly around the base of his penis adds a little friction, which gives him more pleasure.

YOU'VE HEARD OF Battery-Powered Fun for One ADVANCED PLEASURE POINTER Sharing Synchronized Vibrations
You may have some kind of battery-operated friend that you reserve for frisky moments alone, but sharing your toy with your guy boosts the fun quotient for both of yon.

Most likely, your man has never felt the electrifying pulses of a pleasure toy, so handle his member with care. "Putting your vibrator directly on his penis might be a bit too intense for him," says Laura Berman. "Instead, try experimenting on his perineum area another spot rich with nerve endings but not quite as sensitive."

To begin, rub his shaft from head to base. When you're sure he's revved up, turn your vibrator on low and slide it just behind his testicles, pushing firmly into his perineum. If you think he can handle it, increase the speed of the vibrator as you increase the momentum of your hand sliding up and down his shaft.

Just be aware that this kind of pulsation may also be too powerful to put directly on his scrotum, says Dr. Jennifer Berman, so muffle the intensity by wrapping the vibrator with a handkerchief, sheet, or your undies to softer the vibrations. Or press it against your vulva while he's thrusting from behind so he'll feel the tremors through your body. Hint: For his sake, don't use a threatening phallus dildo; a small egg-shaped vibrator works best.

Most likely, your man has never felt the electrifying pulses of a pleasure toy, so handle his member with care.